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I was really excited to go to this breakout at the Orange Conference for three main reasons:

1. I have a preschooler.

It’s a fact.  Evie’s not in school, so that makes her pre-school.

2. I want her heart to be captured by Jesus.

As Cass said, “If we don’t, the world will.”

3. A guy was leading this breakout.

Maybe I’m weird to think it’s unique that a guy is a preschool guru, but I want to join the ranks of guys who are passionate about pre-school ministry.

First off, I’m thankful that Cass shared his notes from his breakout on his blog here.  That saves me a lot of work!

I was most touched by how accessible parents can really make the Bible for our kids.  We can break the Bible down to essential truths and weave those into everyday conversation.  I’m going with the big three: “God made me,” “God loves me,” and “Jesus wants to be my friend forever.”  The main thing is that our kids realize that the Bible is the place to go to find out all we need to know.

I was touched by a couple of examples of the difference between getting a preschooler to memorize a verse to get free stickers and how to write God’s truth on their hearts.  In one example, Cass talked about a kid who had actually comforted his family in the midst of a tornado because he remembered “be strong and courageous…don’t be afraid.”  I’d love for Evie to know those kinds of things during the “tornados” of life.  Also, Cass illustrated how to extend a Bible story from Sunday morning throughout the week.  He talked about how his kids had learned about the miraculous catch of fish in church.  While the boys where in the tub, Cass dumped all of their tub toys (so at least 3,000 items) into the tub to demonstrate how much God had provided.  This giggly moment probably hammered home to those boys this story.

The pressure’s on (in a good way) because I was reminded that kids can smell fake– we’ve got to teach, model, and live what we’re telling our kids.

I think I was most touched by the idea that we really have to make the most of the time that we have; and the way that we can do that is by creating a rhythm.  We can take advantage of the little moments in a preschooler’s life: play time, car time, bath time, and cuddle time.  We can pray, talk, ask our kids what was their favorite thing of the day and what was their least favorite.  The bottom line is that we have to capture our kids’ hearts (and no…not in some weird Indiana Jones “GOLIMAR” kind of way).

This had me thinking about the music that I listen to while I’m hanging out with Evie.  And, although I’m not listening to gangsta rap with her around, I am kind of in neutral with what I was listening to: Raffi, Yo Gabba Gabba, or Disney stuff.  I realized I can do better.  I bought three CD’s that I’m going to review on here soon: Yancy Not Nancy’s “Little Praise Party: Happy EveryDay” [listen online] and the Orange peeps’ “Zapped” [listen online] and (my favorite) “Whoooo Loves You?” [listen online].  Evie loves these songs, and I love them too because she’s learning “God made it all,” that Jesus is a “present from heaven,” and that God is with her.

Bottom line from all of this is that I know it’s going to take work.  Cass said it’s going to take work.  But, at the end of the day, we want our kids to be oozing with a Biblical worldview.  It was convicting and informative.  I began to realize that being creative about how to reach our little ones is definitely a worthwhile investment of energy.  Cass has great ideas on his blog.  Also, I want to send a shout out to Amanda White’s blog for this because she’s really creative too (so you don’t have to be).

What sorts of things do you do (or have done) with your preschoolers to write God’s Word on their hearts?


Last night, I was awfully jet-lagged from the Orange Conference flight home; but my wife had made me a better youth leader by promising that we would go see a group of students off before prom (so I was going). I’m glad I did.

MK just loves taking pictures of students during those awesome life moments, so I got to kind of hang back with Evie and reflect, project, and think about life in general. I had more than one proud papa or proud mama tell, “Enjoy this [meaning Evie being little] because pretty soon she’ll be going to prom too.” I said she wasn’t allowed just yet. :-)

I’ve still got at least fourteen years, but it did have me thinking.

In that moment, Evie’s greatest concern was kissing her Thumper (the bunny from Bambi) doll and gnawing on his face. One of these days, she is going to have far more perilous concerns. Some “Thumper” may be wanting to kiss and gnaw on her at prom night 2028, and I was thinking about what needs to happen between now and then to equip her to succeed under those very real pressures.

I want her to be so in love with Jesus that, when some befreckled dweeb with Justin Bieber hair bats his eyes at her that she crushes without being crushed.

This morning I was listening to a cd I bought at the Orange Conference with her. It’s all about how God made her, God loves her, and Jesus wants to be her friend forever. I figure that, with this whole relationship with God thing, if I stay in “neutral” (ok stuff but not leading her to Jesus: stuff like Yo Gabba Gabba, Disney, Dora the Explorer, Justin Bieber, or Raffi) I’m not going to be moving her towards Jesus. And, yeah, there’s definitely stuff that will grow her up feeling entitled and give her an attitude (I would consider that “reverse”..won’t name names because I’m not the judge).

But if I can move into first gear (“forward”) from the beginning and inch her closer and closer to a relationship with Jesus then maybe (just maybe) I can rest a little easier on prom night 2028. There are no guarantees. But I’d rather bet on Jesus than that red one-eyed pickle, a princess, an “exploradora,” a hearthrob, a folk artist, or even her old daddy.

She’s got to feel a part of a bigger story. And that starts now.


Old Man Abraham had no kids at all, yet he was promised a “nation” worth of kids in his old age. I don’t think Abraham always had perspective of what the purpose of his family would be. A lot of times I wonder if us modern-day people really understand the purpose of family.

To some parents, parenthood is living vicariously through their kids. I’m thinking about “stage moms” (hence the “Toddlers in Tiaras” picture) and dads who push their kids to be the next great athlete (see Earl Woods or the Williams sisters’ dad).

To some parents, parenthood is a transitory thing, “I just want to raise them right. When they’re off in the real world, I’ll keep my fingers crossed.”

To some parents, parenthood is pleasing their kids, “I just wanted you to be happy and to have everything that I didn’t have.” Maybe another way to put these things is to “focus on the family.”

But I think Abraham from the get-go understood that he wasn’t supposed to focus on his family. How could he? He didn’t have a child, and his wife was old. Beyond that, though, there was always a higher purpose for his family. He was supposed to focus his family. God preempted all of this family stuff with Abraham with a promise:

“I will make you into a great nation,
and I will bless you…”

Most of us like to stop there. I mean, who doesn’t want to have bunch of kids and be blessed? Sounds like the American dream. But there’s more.

“I will make your name great,
and you will be a blessing.
I will bless those who bless you,
and whoever curses you I will curse;
and all peoples on earth
will be blessed through you.”

There was a purpose behind Abraham’s family. Yes, they would be blessed; but, more than that, they will “be a blessing” and “all the peoples on the earth” will be blessed through them.

Is it any different for our kids? How do we lose focus?

I was literally interrupted writing this post (hence the ellipses) by Evie, who was crying in her crib. She needed attention. Mom was tired. I grabbed her and started to talk to her. I put on some Raffi (yeah, Spotify) and started singing with her and ended up having some great pre-work, daddy/daughter time.

How do we lose focus?

Our kids demand attention.

Whether it’s because of needs or wants, our kids are going to usually let you know what they’re wanting at every moment. And, as a parent feeling responsible for them, we’re going to do everything we can to communicate love or figure out problems. I see it with the mom whose son is flipping out in the checkout line at Foods Co because he wants a candy bar. I see it in the high school mom who doesn’t know what to do because her daughter is caught up in relationship drama. Our kids demand our attention.

Our kids are so easy to focus on.

I was sitting there just holding Evie last night, and I was thinking to myself, “Wow, this is an awfully cute baby!” We have these moments. We love to watch them, see them grow, see them succeed, watch them shine, etc. Our kids are easy to focus on.

Even so, I think God is calling us to have a deeper perspective of parenting; and I think Abraham’s life is going to be helpful to us as we look at this more in subsequent posts.

We focus on the family.

God calls us to focus the family.

More on that later…



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