January 6, 2012
This is part two of a series of posts that starts here.
Earlier this week, I was really wrestling with this idea of how, if we’re not careful, we can really make parenting something it is not. Abraham, in the book of Genesis, is given a vision from God for what his family was supposed to be all about.
“I will make you into a great nation,
and I will bless you.
I will make your name great,
and you will be a blessing.
I will bless those who bless you,
and whoever curses you I will curse;
and all peoples on earth
will be blessed through you.”
God, before Abraham even has a kid, tells him that his kid (and all those kids after that) are going to be “a blessing” and that “all the peoples on the earth will be blessed through [them].” When it comes down to it, a “nation” is people. In this case, it is Abraham’s family– and they were made for a reason.
I’m not Jewish. Technically, Abraham is not my father in this sense. But, he is my father in another way. He has often been called the a “father of the faith.” He believed God. He didn’t just believe the trueness of His statements. He believed in God.
God gave Abraham a vision. I believe that the God who Abraham served is the same God who I serve. I want Evie to encounter and fall in love with Him. I look at Evie sometimes; and, yeah, I pray that she doesn’t get things all wrong like I did when I was younger. I pray that having a mom and a dad who love Jesus and believe Him for who He says He is will focus her.
I wrestle with a strong inner desire for my daughter to be “daddy’s little girl” and think I’m the best dad ever. It would be scary, though, if I was everything for her. Nothing can rival God’s love for her. I want Jesus to be everything to Evie and for her to embrace all the implications that go along with that.
Shane and Shane sing about this issue in their song, “The One You Need.” I love what they wrote on their blog about it.
“As new parents, there is ONE thing we want our little girls to know. One Man. The only One Who can satisfy her every need. The only one who can provide a happily ever after. Jesus. Seeing the world through the eyes of a father changes our focus. The broken things become clear and even our own fallible natures are seen in a new light. Sobering truths like this should lead us into a deeper Faith in the only one who is not broken, but was broken for us, the children of God. This is the reality we long for our daughters and sons to live in. That Jesus, is the the one you need. Whom do I have in heaven but You? There is NOTHING on earth that I desire besides You. My flesh and my heart may fail (and mine sure have), but you are the strength of my heart and my portion forever. *Psalm 73: 25-26″
Watch the video here if you haven’t seen it. But check out some of the lyrics:
You know I’ve loved you from the start
So come in close, take my hand
While daddy shares his heart
I wish that I could be your everything
Be the one to give you all the things you need
Sometimes I’m gonna let you down
There’s someone and if you just believe
He’ll be your hero like He’s always been for me
Darling, Jesus is the One you need
No matter what you walk through
He will always love you
Just the way you are
For there’s nothing in this world
That I want for my baby girl
Than to be happy ever after
The story of your life is still untold
I pray the king of all the universe
Would make your heart His home
At an early age, I want to point Evie (focus her) towards this God of Abraham, Moses, the disciples, and her mommy and daddy. I want her to be in wonder of who He is.
And as she grows, I want to bring into focus who she really is– not who boys tell her she is, not who the other girls in school tell her she is– but to discover who God says she is.
And even at a young age, I would love to see her start to see that the world isn’t about her– we are called to have passion for others.
I would love for her to be a blessed girl who is a blessing to others. And I think that all starts with focus now.