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Confession time. Recently, I was sitting on the couch, watching TV, and this ad came on:

I looked over at Mary Kate (my wife); and said, “OK, this commercial makes no sense to me. I don’t get it.”

Then she explained that it was all about the movie “The Black Swan.” I didn’t even realize the girl was wearing a ballerina outfit. The commercial went from being kind of lame to pretty genius. I just didn’t get it in the first place.

I was thinking about that experience, about finally admitting that I might not know everything and chancing that my wife might know what was going on; and I realized that this is not normal for me.

If I don’t know something, I don’t like asking people. I don’t want to ask for help. I’ll keep quiet and Google it later. I’ll pretend like I know what people are talking about.

For some reason, I equate my coolness with being able to know everything about everything.

Here’s the problem with that: I can’t be an expert on everything.

I’m not an expert on parenting. That’s for sure. When Evie came into this world about five months ago, it was less of a “OK, you’ve crammed and know everything, right?” than a “Ready or not, here I come!”

I feel more “not” than “ready.”

Ready or not, this is what God calls His people to do when it comes to being a parent (extracted from Deuteronomy 6:5-7):

- Love God with all your intentions
- Love God with your deepest passions
- Love God with the most commitment you can possibly muster
- Internalize God’s Word
- Impress God’s Word on the hearts of your kids
- Talk about His Word all the time

Pretty intimidating, huh? But the stakes of not admitting that we need help are so much greater than if we fail to mention that we don’t understand a Mustang commercial. For one, this is a command from God. It’s the way things are supposed to be. Also, we’re talking about something so precious– our kids.

Which is more important to you, though, preserving your pride or taking help?

This is why I love Orange. At New Harvest, we’re walking with you, offering up ways to do what God is commanding us to do.

If you’ve got a baby, listen to Parent Link Live.

If you’ve got a toddler, those monthly Parent Cues that you can pick up at registration are vital (also…stay tuned for a pre-school parent blog!).

If you’ve got elementary kids, there are myriad ways, between the Parent Cues, Family Life Live, and (my favorite) the Parent Cue App.

If you’ve got middle school or high school kids, our parent cues are now taking video form and are available on our blog and our Facebook fan page.

Look, I had to ask what was going on with that commercial. Maybe we need to take the small steps to get us to start realizing the potential that we have as parents to impress God’s Word on our kids’ hearts.

It all starts with a question, “Hey, um, I’ve got a kid whose _______. What can I be doing to help her grow in her faith?”


In my first seminary class, my professor presented us with the following verse…

1 Kings 10:26

Solomon accumulated chariots and horses; he had fourteen hundred chariots and twelve thousand horses, which he kept in the chariot cities and also with him in Jerusalem.

Then he asked the question, “Is this a good thing, a bad thing, or neutral?”

We all kind of scratched our heads. I, being the kind of guy who likes to at least take a shot, said that it was a good thing, a sign of God blessing Solomon.

He gave me an, “Oh yeah?” look and then showed this verse…

Deuteronomy 17:16

16 The king, moreover, MUST NOT acquire great numbers of horses for himself or make the people return to Egypt to get more of them, for the LORD has told you, “You are not to go back that way again.”

Woops.

I guess the logic in the whole thing was the fact that God didn’t want any king to be relying on his own ability to broker deals and treaties and build up a huge army. God wanted the king to depend on Him.

So…it had me thinking.

As parents, what is the object of our trust?

You definitely want to be a good parent and be safe and all that, but we can farm out the whole trust thing to something beside God:

In Baby Einstein I trust!

In the Joneses (those people I’m trying to keep up with) I trust!

In Parenting magazine I trust!

In the opinion of my peers I trust!

I’m not saying that these things are bad in and of themselves. Maybe Baby Einstein will get your kid that scholarship to Stanford. Maybe the Joneses are doing some positive things that are worth emulating. Maybe Parenting magazine has some good tips. Maybe your friends’ opinions are worth listening to.

Horses and chariots aren’t bad in and of themselves, yet God forbade them.

This is a trust issue. Where will you place your trust first?

If you’re working on cultivating a little genius but not sharing God’s Word with your kid, you may have a problem.

If you’re teaching your kid the value of “stuff” instead of the value of love, you may have a problem.

If you’re looking how to mold your little image-bearer (of God) into any other image, you may have a problem.

If you’re looking to the approval of your buddies instead of God’s approval, you may have a problem.

What’s crazy is that Solomon looked like he had it all, when he was really, subtly spiritually bankrupt. This was even before the “let’s have 1,000 women” thing.

What good is it if we look like we have it all together but realize that we didn’t invite God to the party when it’s all said and done?

God gave you a kid.
Thank Him.
Pray to Him.
Depend on Him.
Trust Him.


I’m excited about this weekend. No, not just about the game. I’m excited because I get to participate in the relaunch of New Harvest’s Orange Family Experience (FX) that we call “Family Life Live.”

Here’s what it’s not:

- a pageant [Yes, there are children and youth performing, using their God-given talents; but let's not confuse the purpose...]
- an excuse for me to act crazy on the stage [I will do this. But it is for a reason...]
- something for the kids [Well, it's definitely appropriate for kids, and kids will love it. But it's for the whole family! So...shh...and pay attention...]

Because:

Family Life Live is for families. This is an opportunity for parents of babies, toddlers, children, and youth to experience godly edu-tainment together.

* It’s funny. There are references that only the parents will get. For example, I make jokes about Samuel L Jackson, the California legislature, and Bernie Madoff. And kids will love the goofy antics of goofy characters.

* It’s centered on God’s Word. The whole morning is about a unified subject each time. This Sunday, it’ll be about HONOR (which comes from the story of David being anointed king of Israel). And everything, from the songs, to the emcees, to the skits, to the Bible characters all have to do with reinforcing this godly virtue and how it plays out in our everyday life. Yes, we could just open up a Bible and have kids sit in a circle and read it to them; but we can also leverage our creativity to present timeless truths in a relevant (and hilarious/disarming/way-more-memorable) way.

* It’s a valuable tool. Family Life Live is intended to be a launching point for conversation in the family. Every age group has resources available to their parents to help further spiritual conversations in the home:

– parents of babies here can take advantage of the monthly Parent Link Live podcasts that speak to this special time

– parents of toddlers have a monthly Parent Cue that enables parents to engage in conversations with their little ones during play time, car time, bath time, and cuddle time

- parents of elementary kids get parent cues also and can take advantage of the amazing Parent Cue App that furthers the conversation during drive time, hang time, and meal time

- parents of middle school and high school students have access to a parent cue (on our parents’ blog) for every series that we do (including intentional activities and conversations that you can have)

- Family Life Live is one more tool for parents to engage in spiritual conversations with their kid(s). Granted, if you’re not engaging in any conversation afterwards, I can see where people would say, “Meh, it’s not for me.” But that’s kind of like saying that P90X stinks because I didn’t get results when I didn’t actually DO any of the workouts.

In order to get the maximum effect of Family Life Live (or any of the Parent Cues that we offer), you’ve got to continue (or start) the conversation with your kid(s). Our family ministry team is here to help. To me, FLL is one big catalyst for making that happen.

And that’s why I am excited.

But, hey, those of you who have participated in the past, tell the world what it’s meant to your family!



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