December 10, 2011
I’m trying to figure out how to get traction in the Orange Dad community. It’s not so much that I’m concerned about whether or not I’ve got a high readership, etc. I am more concerned with the fact that I’ve been writing but there hasn’t been much interaction, discussion, or even pushback with the dads out there.
Am I just coming up against years and years of conditioning that tells dads that the best way to be a parent is to be a “provider”? Although being a provider is important, that’s certainly not the only thing. But I feel like a lot of guys have more to say about sports, their fantasy teams, their jobs, politics, etc. than they do about one of the most important roles they will ever play: being a father.
Is it that we spend too much time fantasizing about other things on the internet when we could get serious about the reality of our roles as dads:
Is the internet just a place to act like a hotshot by talking junk about political things or being the most sarcastic guy in the world?
Is it merely a place that men go to check the stats of their players so they can feel like they are a GM of a pro team?
Is it a place to become a hero in a fake world by playing hours of video games that won’t contribute at all to our “hero” status on this earth?
Is it a place to objectify women and steal away our hearts?
Is it a place to acquire more stuff to keep up with those fictional Joneses?
I don’t know the answers to these questions, but I feel like this issue is an important one. I guess that if I felt that there was an outlet or regular “real life” forum for men to discuss these issues I wouldn’t be so frustrated about this community’s failure to launch. But is there? Where are the men talking about these things?
I want to be a part of changing this culture.
If you disagree with me, fine. Tell me. Let’s get into some serious discussion.
If you’re skeptical about what all this “God stuff” has to do with being a good dad. Fine, let’s talk about it here.
If you’re embarrassed because you know you’re dropping the ball, should we let the fear of people knowing we’re flawed (just like everyone else) be the reason why we don’t participate in the iron sharpening ability of community.
Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This can’t happen if I’m talking to myself all day. I’ll be about as sharp as one of those pool noodles.
So…what’s relevant to you? Pitch ideas. Let’s explore the tough stuff. If you want to anonymously propose topics that are kicking your butt right now, do it.
Let’s leave it all out on the field when it comes to being a dad.
After all, being a dad is kind of a big deal.