…”Parenting Beyond Your Capacity” by Reggie Joiner & Carey Nieuwhof. You can do it here.
No, seriously. You could buy four Starbucks drinks with the amount of money it costs and watch a week’s worth of Wheel of Fortune in the time that it would probably take to read it and realign your gauges for what’s important as a parent.
I am the skeptic of all skeptics. I don’t drink anyone’s Kool-Aid, even if it’s “orange” Kool-Aid. When I read a book, I think the burden of proof is always on the author to show me that what he/she is saying is the real deal.
That’s why it’s so remarkable that, when I read “Parenting Beyond Your Capacity,” I literally would get so excited about sections that I would have to tell my wife, “Hey, listen to this!”
The book is organized in a conversational tone from both authors to discuss ideas such as:
* A parent’s influence is best realized in partnership with the church.
* God isn’t holding up a perfect picture; He’s writing a bigger story.
[So stop trying to appear "perfect."]
* Pursue strategic relationships for your kids.
[You can't do this by yourself! No one can or should.]
* Focus your priorities on what matters most.
[Imagine the end. WHO do we want our kids to become?]
* Communicate in a style that gives the relationship value.
[Fight for the heart!]
* Increase the quantity of quality time you spend together.
[How do you interact with your kid? Is there a rhythm?]
* Put yourself first when it comes to personal growth.
[Does your faith make your kids believe more or less in God?]
* You can mobilize your family to demonstrate God’s love in a broken world.
[Focus the family.]
I’m on the early, early end of the parenting spectrum. Shoot, my baby is like, what, seventeen days old. But I’m hoping that I will still be implementing the strategies and ideas from this book when Evie is seventeen years old.
This is a resource that I can literally put in any parent’s hands if they are humble enough to ask for help!
I will hit more of this book as I continue to write on this blog because I’m now fully wrapped up in “Think Orange” (the mothership of Orange books– aimed at church leaders). What makes this book great, though, is that it speaks directly to the parent side of the equation. Good, good stuff.
I’m not saying this book is the end all be all, though. With that being said…
Are their any other parenting resources that you have read (or would like to share with me) that have really helped you as a parent (or you as a family ministry person) to grow up your kids in their faith?